I’ve always believed in and written about the concept of having an abundant mentality, but not until recently did I wrap my head around the concept in a way that I had never before.
For one reason or another I’ve been getting approached by women more than I ever have in my life. Women have been approaching me indirectly and asking me questions to some of the most obvious questions.
“ Hey, excuse me do you have the time?” – while their phone is in their hand.
“Do you know how to get to “ 34th Street” – while we’re on 34th Street.
Right after I’d tell them they always seem to linger around for about 5-7 seconds waiting on me to continue the conversation. Now while I normally engage with women I approach, I’ve been a bit thrown off by the gesture an as a result I’ve just stood there wondering if there was anything else they would like to ask me before they nervously and reluctantly said “well okay…thanks” and walk away.
Women have been behaving more like men toward me, and I realized that it was happening right around the time I started to think like a woman.
You see, a highly attractive woman has the ultimate abundance mentality. Guys are cat calling them, approaching them, and writing them on Facebook, instagram, and twitter hundreds of times a day. And as a result they have no problem taking a break from the madness. They don’t mind putting their phone on silent or airplane mode and leaving it out of reach for a couple hours. They’ll cut a guy off that they were once into. And they’ll even block certain guys on social media and on their phones so the guys can’t contact them if they wanted to. They’ll reject a quality guy, they’ll say no to “sex”, and they’ll walk away from a guy completely because, they understand (and experience) that there will always be another attractive male,trying to be in their life; and there will always be another attractive male trying to sleep with them.
That’s the difference between the mindset of guys who aren’t successful with women and the mindset of attractive women and men who are. The average joe won’t turn his phone on airplane mode, because he’s too afraid of missing out on an opportunity with a girl he likes. He won’t block a girl from contacting him that he likes even if she disrespects him, because he doesn’t want to miss out if she decides to contact him. And he won’t walk away from a girl he becomes somewhat emotionally attached without trying everything he can first because in his life, high quality women don’t come around often. He will never reject sex if a woman throws it at him, and he will never turn down an attractive women that tries to come on to him.
Now what the average guy doesn’t realize is, because he “thinks” this way. Because he tries to milk the most out every single opportunity with every attractive women that comes his way he is developing a mindset that becomes a mild repellant to women. And as a result he has to work a lot harder, he has to chase women up & down, sell himself, and practically convince women that they should consider dating him. The mindset he has, and the frame he projects makes women suspicious. They have to test him more, they have to screen him thoroughly and they have to qualify him. Women aren’t just falling into his lap, because they get the intuitive sense that he would date anyone that was attractive. He has no real standard beyond the surface. So she needs the guy to convince her, and if he’s has the gift of gab, but lacks the true “abundant female mindset” she will find out she’s been with a loser in a couple of months. He wasn’t real, he just convinced her he was.
So what men have to do is to begin walking away from women that don’t live up to our standards. Not only is this going to make women build themselves up more, but it’s going to cause you to project a frame that says “ I HAVE STANDARDS. And I WILL NOT DEAL WITH ANY WOMAN WHO DOESN’T LIVE UP TO THEM”. And thats the most attractive thing a man can do. A woman wants to feel chosen, she doesn’t want to feel like you settled for her. They want to feel special, they want to know that you could of dated any woman in this world if you wanted to, but you choose her because she is the one woman that met your standards. She is exactly the one you were looking for.
So as men we have to begin to develop standards beyond the surface if we don’t have them already. Because if all you require is for a woman to be attractive, thats all she will be. Thats a huge part of whats contributing to the madness we’re looking at one social media today. If she’s pretty enough she can make hundreds of thousands of dollars a year. What is this teaching the younger women? What does this make them feel they have to aspire to? There is a place for money to be made off of beauty, but that can’t be ALL our women are into. And a young girl without the proper guidance or role model can instantly view that as her ticket to success. And we all know beauty fades, so when the looks wear off and the younger women replace them, what will we be left with?
I think its wrong for us as men to complain about women when we’re the ones that are not holding them to higher standards. And this goes for women too. If every woman decided today, that they would not sleep with a man that wasn’t an intellectual, every man would be walking around with a book in his hand. That would elevate society immediately. A lot of power is based in the standard of that which we find to be attractive. Women to men and men to women. So will complaining about each other change a thing? No. But collectively holding each other to higher standards will.
And it all starts with each of us an individual.
You attract what you think. You think abundantly, speak abundantly and act abundantly, and you will find your life being filled with abundance very shortly. Women have been approaching me for the simple fact that I’ve been letting the ones go that didn’t live up to my standard. I’m projecting something different. My mindset, influences my frame, my frame influences my aura/presence, and these things contribute to what a woman will intuitively pick up from me when I walk into the room. And when they finally see something different, they may just take their shot. Just as we do as men.
So this is my PSA if you will. Learn to walk while there are still options left. Its easy to walk away when you’ve tried everything else; thats not abundance. The hard part is walking away when you may still have a chance, but you know that the woman is not up to your standard. The hard part is turning down sex from a woman who you know isn’t up to par.
And once you begin to do that. The types of women you really want will take notice.
We can’t hide anything in this world. Everything we do either in public or in private will affect what we project from within us one way or another. Every action, every word spoken, and every thought is emitted from us.
Emit abundance… Get abundance.
Peace & Love